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In Defense of Dreamers

Maybe it’s because I used to be a high-school foreign language teacher, and so have a fondness for attempting to open closed minds, especially on the subject of those who speak a native tongue other than English; maybe it’s because I have an over-developed sense of fairness; maybe I’m just tired of arguing with people who continue to confuse the DACA program (“Dreamers”) with their fears of a horde of illegal immigrants taking advantage of our government systems so they can bring an endless wave of rape, destruction, pillaging, and anarchy to our poor, hapless country–whatever the reason, when I can’t stop thinking about it, the only thing I can do is write about it.

So here we go: my thoughts on DACA and Dreamers and why it was worth shutting down the government to protect them. [editorial comments liberally sprinkled throughout, helpfully denoted by brackets]:

[From the official website of the Department of Homeland Security]

To be eligible to apply for DACA:

  1. Younger than 31 as of June 15, 2012
  2. Came to the U.S. before 16th birthday
  3. Continuously resided in U.S. from June 15, 2007 to present
  4. Physically present in the U.S. on June 15, 2007 and on the date of request
  5. Had no lawful status on June 15, 2015
  6. Are currently in school, have graduated or obtained a certificate of completion from high school, have obtained a general education development (GED) certificate, or are an honorably discharged veteran of the Coast Guard or Armed Forces of the United States [Huh…so students and vets? Interesting]
  7. Have not been convicted of a felony, significant misdemeanor, or three or more other misdemeanors, and do not otherwise pose a threat to national security or public safety. [So no felons…guess that means you can’t be a rapist or a drug dealer.]
  8. Must be 15 or older to request DACA.

If eligible per above, in order to apply, must:

  1. Provide supporting documentation—
Proof of identity
  • Passport or national identity document from your country of origin
  • Birth certificate with photo identification
  • School or military ID with photo
  • Any U.S. government immigration or other document bearing your name and photo
Proof you came to U.S. before your 16th birthday
  • Passport with admission stamp
  • Form I-94/I-95/I-94W
  • School records from the U.S. schools you have attended
  • Any Immigration and Naturalization Service or DHS document stating your date of entry (Form I-862, Notice to Appear)
  • Travel records
  • Hospital or medical records
  • Employment records (pay stubs, W-2 Forms, etc.)
  • Official records from a religious entity confirming participation in a religious ceremony
  • Copies of money order receipts for money sent in or out of the country
  • Birth certificates of children born in the U.S.
  • Dated bank transactions
  • Automobile license receipts or registration
  • Deeds, mortgages, rental agreement contracts
  • Tax receipts, insurance policies
Proof of immigration status
  • Form I-94/I-95/I-94W with authorized stay expiration date
  • Final order of exclusion, deportation, or removal issued as of June 15, 2012
  • A charging document placing you into removal proceedings
Proof of presence in U.S. on June 15, 2012
  • Rent receipts or utility bills
  • Employment records (pay stubs, W-2 Forms, etc)
  • School records (letters, report cards, etc)
  • Military records (Form DD-214 or NGB Form 22)
  • Official records from a religious entity confirming participation in a religious ceremony
  • Copies of money order receipts for money sent in or out of the country
  • Passport entries
  • Birth certificates of children born in the U.S.
  • Dated bank transactions
  • Automobile license receipts or registration
  • Deeds, mortgages, rental agreement contracts
  • Tax receipts, insurance policies
Proof you continuously resided in U.S. since June 15, 2007
Proof of your student status at the time of requesting DACA
  • Official records (transcripts, report cards, etc) from the school that you are currently attending in the United States.
  • U.S. high school diploma or certificate of completion
  • U.S. GED certificate
Proof you are an honorably discharged veteran of the Coast Guard or Armed Forces of the U.S.
  • Form DD-214, Certificate of Release or Discharge from Active Duty
  • NGB Form 22, National Guard Report of Separation and Record of Service
  • Military personnel records
  • Military health records


[Are you tired yet? I know I am, and that’s only step one, documentation.]

  1. Complete and submit multiple hefty and complicated forms, too lengthy to list here, but if you want to see them, here are the links:;;
  2. Pay a $495 application fee. [Ouch.]
  3. May only travel outside of the U.S. under heavy restrictions: “Certain travel outside the United States may affect the continuous residence guideline. Traveling outside the U.S. before Aug. 15, 2012, will not interrupt your continuous residence if the travel was brief, casual, and innocent. If you travel outside the United States after Aug. 15, 2012, and before we decide your request for DACA, you will not be considered for DACA.” [Bold above is mine: Who determines when travel is considered “brief, casual and innocent?” Seems sort of subjective, if you ask me. But maybe they mean Canada???]

5. Must complete a U.S.-certified “biometrics” exam: “The technical definition of ‘biometrics’ means that a person’s unique physical and other traits are detected and recorded as a means of confirming identity. In simple terms, USCIS will obtain your photograph, fingerprints and have you sign your name. This process confirms your identity so that USCIS provides benefits to the correct person and facilitates the necessary criminal background check. In rare circumstance, USCIS may request DNA testing for immigration cases where applicants are either from developing countries and do not have birth certificates, or when there are suspicious discrepancies within the case.” []

  1. Must pass a background check.
  2. Repeat the above steps every two years, including paying the $495 fee, which is the same to renew as to apply for the first time [forever].

[After completing this complex, onerous, and lengthy process, which can take up to 150 days or more to provide a confirmation or rejection, after all this, you might still be rejected (some 70,000 folks have been to date).]

For those lucky Dreamers who were accepted, however, here are some Fun Facts:

  • About half of Dreamers are under the age of 21; the oldest would be in their late thirties.
  • DACA recipients have paid about $2 billion in state and local taxes, the Institute on Taxation and Economic Policy estimates, since 2012.
  • But even though they’re paying taxes, just like a “real citizen,” there are still things you can’t get under DACA: “Generally, non-citizens with Deferred Action are not [‘qualified’ immigrants] and so are not eligible for full-scope Medicaid and CHIP[They also can’t receive food stamps, but who’s counting.] Additionally, those granted Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals are also not eligible for affordable health insurance options that are available to other non-citizens who have Deferred Action. Under the policy, DACA grantees are not eligible to purchase health insurance in a Marketplace, even at full cost, and they are not eligible for federal tax credits to make private health insurance in the Marketplace affordable.  They are not eligible for the CHIPRA sec. 214 state option to cover lawfully residing children and/or pregnant women.” [But hey, at least they’re exempt from the health insurance requirement mandate, so bonus!] ( [Wait, so they’re not getting free health care, not even for pregnant moms? That sucks.]
  • DACA college students are not eligible for federal financial aid. [No financial aid for school, either?]
  • And yet, in spite of all that, according to the National Immigration Law Center, 75% of DACA recipients are currently employed [i.e., paying taxes], and not just in manual jobs, either—
  • According to the Migration Policy Institute, DACA beneficiaries also tend to be employed in higher-skilled jobs than workers who are in the country illegally. “While the latter [“illegal aliens”] were heavily represented in jobs that involve manual work — such as construction and extraction, and building and grounds cleaning and maintenance — DACA-eligible workers were most commonly found in white-collar occupations that are usually done indoors in formal business settings.” [Migration Policy Institute;].
  • Business leaders support Dreamers:; the U.S. economy stands to lose billions of dollars if DACA is terminated, and they know it.
  • Faith groups support Dreamers:
  • 1 in 4 Dreamers are parents themselves; those children would lose one, or potentially both parents, if DACA is terminated.

So to recap: Dreamers were brought here as children, through no fault of their own, and lived as illegal aliens, albeit minors, in this country until whatever age they were on June 25, 2012, it is true. But when the U.S. government formally acknowledged that punishing the child for the sins of the parent (like charging a 7-year-old child for being in the back seat of the getaway car when his dad robbed the local bank) was overly harsh and offered these children a way to LEGALLY remain in the United States to work and to study, Dreamers took a chance. They jumped through hoop after onerous hoop, completing background checks and biometrics, paying exorbitant application fees, and wading through massive amounts of complicated paperwork.

These Dreamers did everything our government asked them to do to make good on the sins of their parents. Because of their courage in coming out of the shadows, the vast majority of them have gone on to become contributing members of our society. They are doctors, students, members of our military, priests, parents, taxpayers. These are not the ones who are “bringing drugs…bringing rapists…or bringing crime.” [Trump, 2016]. In fact, they are about as far from that as a person can possibly be.

You say you only have a problem with the “bad” kind of immigrants, the kind that bring crime and drugs and rape, the kind that doesn’t pay taxes; the kind that cheats the system, that mooches off the welfare handouts paid for by the good “legal” citizens of this fine country of ours.

Well, if you don’t have a problem with the “good” kind of immigrants (whatever the hell you think that means), then DACA recipients should not give you any qualms whatsoever. They are, in fact, shining examples of the faith, optimism, integrity, courage, hard work, and dedication that have made our country what it is today. People like this built our country. These young folks have proven, simply by undergoing the rigorous DACA application process, which is insanely complex, that they are hard-working, industrious people of honor and decency, willing to do whatever it takes to stay here and be part of the American dream in the only legal capacity available to them. They’ve completed every single task we asked of them, so that they could, in direct opposition to the illegal paths their parents, for whatever reason, chose to take, do the right thing for us and for our country; in return, we must do the right thing for them.

Because the really scary part of this whole debate, the part that makes people like me willing to fight so hard on their behalf, even going so far as to shut down the government to protect them, if necessary, is this: Precisely because Dreamers cooperated so fully and enthusiastically, providing every scrap of information and proof we asked of them, not only does ICE know their names, addresses, phone numbers, and places of business, they also have their fingerprints, and maybe even their DNA—making it laughably easy to track them down if DACA is overturned and they are slated for deportation, many back to countries (thanks to the helpful travel restrictions imposed in the eligibility requirements noted above) they may never even have visited. The stakes for these young people and their families could not possibly be any higher. [Diabolically prescient of our government, I must say. Or maybe just diabolical.]

You want to fight illegal immigrants, the “drug dealers, rapists, and criminals” who are coming here to steal and rape and pillage, I’m right there with you. NO ONE SUPPORTS ILLEGAL IMMIGRATION.

But these, the DACA kids, the Dreamers, are not the immigrants you’re looking for. We owe it to them to protect them.


2017 Undiscovered Voices Fellowship

It’s not your imagination: it has been a while since I last posted! I have a great excuse, however: Last August, I was honored to learn that I had won the 2017 Undiscovered Voices Fellowship, sponsored by the Writer’s Center in Bethesda, Maryland.

As the purpose of this year-long fellowship is for me to complete a “publishable” manuscript (what that actually means remains to be seen) by next summer, I have been spending less time on social media and submissions, and more time writing and taking advantage of the outstanding workshops available to me through the generosity of this fellowship.

So while you will be seeing less of me here, it’s for a very good reason, as I’m sure you’ll agree. You can still find me on my other, less time-intensive social media outlets, in case you start to miss me too much. I’ll update here, as I’m able, and perhaps even share a snippet or two of the work in progress. Wish me luck!

Click here to read my interview with the Writer’s Center about the fellowship. 🙂



Own This Brick

Well, you’re here, so you must be interested in knowing what I have to say about the #TakeAKnee-national anthem issue. I’ll try to make it worth your time.

First, a little background: If you had asked me to define patriotism, at different stages of my life, I might have given different answers. When I was a little girl, for example, it was all about the flag and the anthem. Some of that came about due to the influences of the Boy and Girl Scouts of America organizations. My siblings and I were taught from an early age to revere and respect Old Glory: the proper way to display it; how to fold it; never, ever to let it touch the ground; to remove your hat in its presence; how to properly retire worn or damaged ones (only in approved retirement ceremonies—I can count 6 flags I have disposed of in such a fashion in my adult life, FYI).

My siblings and I all participated in numerous flag ceremonies, and though I can’t speak for anyone else, I always felt an overwhelming sense of pride and awe and deep humility at participating.

That sense of pride and awe was augmented in later years by a growing sense of profound gratitude to our veterans; many members of my family have served our country faithfully and honorably, and more than one has died serving. As I grew older and learned more about their service, and the sacrifices our military men and women and their families make every single day, my determination to respect and honor our flag, as an extension of them, grew ever deeper.

To this day, I display the flag regularly at my home. Veterans Day, Memorial Day, 9/11, Flag Day—there are always flags displayed here. I stand for the national anthem and sing every single word (though I’ll confess, I didn’t know about the last verse until this week; if you don’t know what I’m talking about, you might want to click that link, because you won’t hear that sung at an NFL game).

When I see a folded flag handed to a fallen service member’s family, or hear “Taps” played beside a flag-draped coffin, it never fails to move me to humbled, grateful tears. I’m angry when I see people not remove their hats during the anthem. It distresses me when I see them talk over it, or not put their hands over their hearts. It’s not how I was raised, and it is not how I raised my children. We’ve made several pilgrimages to the National Museum of American History to see the original Star Spangled Banner, and taking them to Fort McHenry to see where the anthem was written was a highlight of one of our recent summers.

I share these things with you not because I’m trying to gain street cred with the anti-#TakeAKnee crowd; I share this with you because, if you’re one of them, I want you to know that I understand what the flag means to you. It means the same to me.

But now, if you’ll indulge me, a little more background of a completely different nature:

I could go on, but I hope, if you’re not a black person and you’ve read this far, (because my assumption is that if you’re black, you sure as shit don’t need me telling you any of this) that you are seeing a pretty blatant, systemic, and appalling pattern of inequality. If you’re white and you’ve read this far, and you’re still not seeing it, just stop reading now and go back to your Breitbart page. You’re probably a lost cause and the rest of this piece will just piss you off.

For the rest of you, I’ll continue:

Enter Colin Kaepernick. I didn’t even know who he was when he first started sitting during the anthem about a year and a half ago; when I heard about it, my initial reaction was “What a jerk! How dare he disrespect the flag like that?” (I’m sure some of you out there can relate to that response at this very moment.) Beyond the initial hubbub, I didn’t pay much attention after that. He was just one athlete, not disrupting the game, protesting some black thing or other—who knew? Like many of you (white) folks, I tuned him out and kept watching my beloved football.

But he kept sitting, and I started paying attention. Some folks—specifically, former Seahawks player and Green Beret Nate Boyer, among others—thought it was too disrespectful and encouraged him to kneel instead:

“We sorta came to a middle ground where he would take a knee alongside his teammates,” Boyer says. “Soldiers take a knee in front of a fallen brother’s grave, you know, to show respect. When we’re on a patrol, you know, and we go into a security halt, we take a knee, and we pull security.”


Interesting, huh? That Kaepernick took the advice of a former GREEN BERET on how to make his protest more respectful of veterans? Just putting that out there for folks to think about.

So, now on his knees, Kaepernick kept up his lonely practice during the anthem; the kerfuffle around it grew over the ensuing months, but, clearly, some folks still weren’t paying much attention, because:

  • Samuel DuBose, a black man pulled over for a traffic stop, was shot and killed by police; charges against the officer were dismissed (though with prejudice)
  • Sylville Smith, a black man pulled over for a traffic stop, was shot and killed by police; charges against the officer were dismissed (though there’s a LOT more to this story; you should read it)
  • Philando Castile, a black man pulled over for a traffic stop, was shot and killed by police; charges against the officer were dismissed

…and this:

  • Every black member of the 2016 University of Pennsylvania freshman class was apparently added to a racist social media group called “Mud Men.” The anonymous group’s creators then proceeded to announce an event called Daily Lynching for Nov. 17, 2016.
  • Nooses, a common hate symbol associated with our country’s terrible history of lynching, were found at the National Museum of African American History in D.C.; outside the Brooklyn Public Library and the Brooklyn Museum; near a D.C. elementary school and outside a condo in Montgomery County, MD, to name just a few
  • Richard Collins III, a newly commissioned U.S. Army second lieutenant, was stabbed to death at a Maryland bus stop by Sean Christopher Urbanski, member of a Facebook group called “Alt-Reich,” which “spews hatred toward minorities ‘and especially African-Americans,’ University of Maryland Police Chief David Mitchell said.” (
  • CHARLOTTESVILLE It’s a pretty big topic, so I’ll just leave that there for you to explore on your own. (Fun fact: As much public outcry as Charlottesville received in the media, there were only 49,900,000 results for that search on Google; The Talk got more—wonder why)
  • The United Nations issued a rare warning over ‘alarming’ racism in the U.S. (

I could go on and on and on with the list of hateful, racist incidents that have happened in this country just since Colin Kaepernick first took a stand over a year ago, but—and here’s the point I’m trying to make—if I have to go on, if I have to point out more and more instances of black Americans being marginalized, penalized, brutalized, because you’re still not convinced that this protest is not about the flag or the anthem but rather is to bring attention to the real, systemic, appalling injustices being done to our fellow Americans of color, if you’re still not seeing it, then you will NEVER understand, and you, in fact, by not seeing it, are part of the problem, like it or not. You may not be an overt racist, but you are for damned sure, an enabler of racism, at minimum.

If you’ve been following my posts on Twitter and Facebook, then you’ve been seeing a lot of support for the #TakeAKnee movement. That decision was not made lightly or without consideration on my part. I love my country. I love my flag. I love my national anthem. I am grateful every single damned day to the veterans who have served, sacrificed, fought, and died under that flag, and the idea of causing them one IOTA of pain by having them believe this protest is about THEM, is a disrespect to THEM, is anyone somehow spitting on them, is one of the most painful misconceptions surrounding this entire movement.

There’s an old saying that goes, “God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don’t have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us.” Right now, like many Americans, maybe you’re feeling like Kaepernick and the NFL and the NBA and the MLB and Stevie Wonder and Eddie Vedder and Dale Earnhardt, Jr. are throwing bricks right at your face, and those bricks fucking hurt.

I understand, I do. I understand that maybe a lot of people in this country wish with all their hearts we could all go back to standing together again, proudly pretending under the flag and anthem of our United States that those hallowed symbols mean the same to everyone else as they have meant to so many others, myself included, their whole lives.

But we, America, have been failing people of color in this country for generations, and it is time for us to stop pretending and start uniting around fixing that. A piece of fabric, no matter how hallowed, or a song, no matter how revered, is not a person. It’s not a country. There are real people in this country, with real problems. They have tried everything to get our attention—violent protests, peaceful protests, sit-ins, walkouts, boycotts, you name it (just ask The Daily Show’s Trevor Noah: “When Is The Right Time For Black People To Protest?”), and somehow, we’re still not listening. How is that even possible, that we could be so blind and deaf to each other?

So they threw a brick, and they knelt during something we have always held dear. And it hurts. It’s painful. It “denigrates our traditions” and “our historic belief system.” It “disrespects our core values.” It’s “offensive.” I get it.

But you know what’s more offensive? Forcing people to practice someone else’s belief system. You want to stand? Stand. No one is stopping you. They want to kneel? Let them kneel. It’s their right, and their exercising of that right takes nothing away from your right to exercise yours.

For most of my life, when I have looked up at the flag, when I have listened to the national anthem, I have felt nothing but pride, love, gratitude and respect that I had the great good fortune to be born an American, and all the rights and benefits and privileges that that birthright affords me—just because I was born lucky.

But I also had the great good fortune to be born white, and therefore, I enjoy all the rights and benefits and privileges that that affords me, again, just because I was born “lucky.” This is an important point here, so please forgive the shouty caps, but: EQUALITY SHOULD NEVER COME AS A RESULT OF LUCK.

We may say in this country that “All Men Are Created Equal,” but it’s for damned sure that from the moment of their creation, Americans of color sure as hell are not treated as equal.

If they were, if things like I posted earlier in this piece did not happen every single day to black Americans in every city, in every county, in every state of our entire country, no one would feel compelled to protest. Black Americans would all be able to stand proud, in awe, in gratitude, in respect of how good their country has been to them. But, unlike for white Americans, that is simply not the case for far too many. Their experiences under our flag have been vastly different than those of white Americans, and those experiences continue to present a dauntingly, dishearteningly formidable barrier to their attainment of all the good that our country could do for them, but historically, has not.

As a child, I didn’t see that. As a young adult, I began to see it, but didn’t yet understand it. Now, in my middle age, I’m trying my hardest to open my eyes wide and see that brick for what it is, to recognize it, to name it, to own it, no matter how it hurts, no matter how it shatters the rose-colored glasses I’d viewed my country—or myself—with up until now.

Maybe you feel like, because you’re not overtly racist in your everyday life, that that’s enough; that passive, complacent non-engagement will somehow magically make things better for any blacks who are still somehow feeling angry or frightened or oppressed in this day and age (go figure!) rather than just feeling grateful that they’re being “allowed” to make money or that they’re not being “shot in the head.” But that’s not enough, not when people are being incarcerated, are being brutalized, are being denied their votes, are, in point of fact, being shot down in the streets, in ways that white people can never fully imagine.

We, white America, we created this #TakeAKnee brick, by not listening, by not understanding, by living on in blissful, willful ignorance of the suffering of people of color around us every day. We own this brick. If it hurts, now that it’s hitting us, we deserve it. We can either take that brick and use it as the foundation of renewed efforts to try to build something better for EVERYONE in this country, or we can hurl it right back at the protesters and keep on revering something that only applies to some Americans and leaves all others scrabbling in the dust we leave behind. We can choose to call them ungrateful, traitors, garbage, vilify them for exercising their constitutionally-protected right to free speech—all because they are trying to open our eyes to their pain, a pain that we, in our ignorance, in our complacency, in our failure to hear and to help, perpetuate. OR we can choose to listen.

I know what I feel called to do, what I choose to do. I love my country. I love my flag. I love my national anthem. I respect in every possible way our veterans and their service. When they play the anthem, I will still stand, hand over my heart. My eyes will still fill with tears when I hear “Taps” play, and I will still bow my head and remember with gratitude the honor and sacrifice of all the men and women who served and sacrificed under that flag so that I could live free. I will do these things not out of blind allegiance, not out of stubborn, fossilized patriotic sentiment, and not out of willful ignorance of what those people kneeling are trying to tell me or as a slam that my patriotism is somehow more authentic and sincere than theirs. I will stand because I still love my country, because I still respect the better angels of our nature and our history, and because yes, for me, those symbols still represent the most important American principle of all: that ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL. I will stand FOR the right for ALL Americans to kneel, to protest, to stand, to sit, to sing, to be silent, however they choose to exercise their right to work toward that principle becoming a reality for every American. That is my choice. Kneel beside me, or stand beside me, I respect your choice and your freedom, no greater or less than mine, to express it.

But then, to my brothers and sisters who choose to kneel with respect and with humility, with quiet, dignified desperation, who are pleading for us to hear the cries of need coming from black communities all over this country, to them, I will extend my hand and tell them, “I see you. I hear you. I am with you. How can I help?”

Please, don’t call the kneelers garbage. Don’t call them traitors. Don’t imply that your love of country is somehow greater than anyone else’s, or that your need to revere our country’s symbols is greater than another’s need to try help others enjoy the same opportunities and privileges you experience, things they are systemically denied because of the virulent racism still poisoning our country. Their kneeling takes nothing away from your standing; it only gives a voice to the voiceless, and it’s time for us all to listen.

We are all Americans, flawed and struggling and imperfect. As Americans, we have the right to speak out against true injustice, against true inequality, and what’s more, as human beings, we have the obligation—that’s one of the things this country was founded upon, and it’s one of the principles generations of Americans have fought and died to defend. So don’t spit on people who are exercising those rights to try to make this country a better place for all.

It’s not about the flag. It’s not about the anthem. It’s not about veterans. If you still think it is, after reading this whole long, damned piece, then I respect your right to disagree, to be pissed, to nurture your hurt in your determination to see it that way. But, with respect, it’s simply not—it’s a brick, and now that it’s got your attention, it’s time for us to take that brick and use it to build something better for everyone (and it won’t be a goddamned wall, either), something worth flying a flag over.

That’s all I have to say.







“Color Blind” At The Bookends Review

Sending out a brief message of heartfelt gratitude today to The Bookends Review for publishing my first flash fiction story ever, “Color Blind.” Caveats: 1. ) No animals were harmed in the writing of this piece (although, please, let that serve as a trigger warning for all you animal lovers out there); 2.) Caribbean blue is a color; Paris green is a poison. Good to know. Here’s to trying new things!

(Uh, unless you’re talking about poisons…)

To read the piece, please visit:





All I Need To Know About Life I Just Learned From Wonder Woman

I went and saw Wonder Woman last night with my husband, our two teenaged sons, and our college-bound daughter. It wasn’t my first superhero movie; we’ve seen enough of those that one might even call me a bit jaded about the genre (except for Groot; I love Groot). But one would be wrong to call me jaded today, now that I’ve seen this movie.

I loved it—no, I reveled in it, in ways I never expected and will probably never be able to fully explain, particularly to men who already don’t get it. For days, I’ve been seeing stories about the movie’s impact, particularly on women and girl viewers; it’s a game-changer, but hard to express in words, because the impact is so visceral—or at least, it was to me.

So instead of an explanation that would likely fall far short of any sort of clarity, I’m going with this list of life lessons—and some lighter-hearted observations—I took away from the movie (it’ll make more sense to you if you see the movie first). I find them to be significant, and seeing them up there on the big screen was not only monumental, but also a reminder that other people thought so, too.

Oh, and if you’re worried about spoilers–just go see the damned movie!

  1. Listen to your sister. We women spend far too much time tearing each other down, ignoring not only the wisdom, the life experiences, the different perspectives each one of us brings to the world, but also the shared life experiences we all have in common, no matter who we are. If we spent more time listening to the women around us, hearing their stories—not just our mothers and sisters, but every woman—just imagine how much we could learn from each other, and how powerful we could become.


  1. Dress to fight. This isn’t about literally fighting, for most of us—this is about loving the body you are given. Love its curves, love its strength, love its softness, love all the amazing things it can do. Dress in a way that makes you feel good about you, because nobody else’s opinion matters. Addendum: Edna Mode may have been mistaken about capes.


  1. A woman doesn’t “need” a man, any more than a man “needs” a woman. If you’re a man reading this, don’t get your jock strap in a bunch yet; just hear me out: Women are smart, women are competent, and women are strong. Virtually all the things women used to believe they “needed” a man to do for them or on their behalf (provide for their household financially, teach their children*, heal them, provide spiritual guidance, vote for them, fight for them, rescue them,  govern them—well, that one’s another post altogether) they can do for themselves now. It may unnerve some men to think about it, but researchers say they’re even getting closer to a woman not even needing a man to reproduce.

By the same token, however, and I hope that this relaxes that pinching jockstrap a bit, a man doesn’t really “need” a woman, either. Thanks to the enlightenment of the past few decades, we know men can do virtually everything we used to think they “needed” a woman to do: cook, clean, sew, raise babies (and not just in some Mr. Mom doofus kind of way),  teach our children*, nurse, grocery shop, do laundry. So yeah, a man doesn’t need a woman, and a woman doesn’t need a man, except…


  1. A human needs a human. Just because we’re strong, competent, and smart, doesn’t mean that we can function in this world alone. We need others, need those strong, enduring, steadfast relationships that we can count on every minute of every day—whether it’s a man or a woman, a parent, a spouse, or a best friend. While we can do many things for ourselves, without the aid or assistance of any particular man or woman, we are not designed to be alone, so a woman needs a man, a man needs a man, a woman needs a woman, and a man needs a woman. We need each other.
  2. If you’re a man reading this, try not to be one of these.

    If you’re a woman reading this, never hesitate to make your voice heard, especially  if you are the only woman in any room, ever, that looks like this:


  1. If you have the chance to change the world for the better, leap that chasm, climb that tower, launch that boat, cross that ocean, toss that goddamned tank.
  2. Don’t grab the only gas mask. Put others, particularly the weak, the poor, and the vulnerable, ahead of yourself.


8. Demand Truth in all things, especially from yourself.

9. Learn to speak a foreign language.

  1. We all, every one of us, have more power inside us than we know. Whenever possible, use it to do good in the world. Temper justice with mercy.

Well, that’s about it for now; I tried to be as succinct as possible. If you haven’t seen the movie yet, go. If you have kids, take them, too, and talk to them afterwards, both the boys and the girls, about what they saw, what they thought, and how they think the world around them should be. They are, after all, our future.  Lastly, I will leave you with a prediction: Cuff bracelets are going to be HUGE this year:

Lynda Carter, you’ll always be my first superhero.

*Funny how, for a long time, only men could be teachers; then, for a while, teaching was considered women’s work. A great example of how arbitrary perceptions can be.


Inside the Ring

You may notice my ring—the chunky, silver peace symbol against a field of black I often wear on my right ring finger—and, given today’s climate, you may think you know something about me. Once, its symbolism may have conjured thoughts of “hippies” or “peaceniks,” but today, more likely, it conjures an image of a “snowflake,” or perhaps even a “libtard.” Maybe you look at my ring and think, “What a liberal, running out and buying a peace ring, of all things. Hippy freak.”


Well, as they often are, looks can be deceiving. You see, this ring I wear so often, it’s not even mine—well, it wasn’t originally. I inherited it from my mother, when she passed away in 1996. Was she a hippy or a peacenik in her day? Probably so—I mean, the ring was originally hers, after all, and she was a raging liberal in her later years. She had it for a very long time, as evidenced by family pictures that have come to mean so much to me now, twenty years after her death; so yes, it’s likely she was an original hippy freak.

The first picture in which the ring appears made us both “famous,” at least in our local community. I was four years old, and Mom had decided to take me ice skating for the first time. As you can see from the image, it was not something I took to willingly. A photographer for our local newspaper, The Rockford Register Star, saw my mother smiling and laughing, and me, wailing and fussing, and thought it was a cute human interest pic (sadist).

Notice the ring. More than forty years have passed since that picture was taken, and the hand wearing that ring is long gone, but still, sometimes, when I look at her ring on my finger now, I can almost feel her hands holding me.








She died before any of my children were born, and that was a source of great pain for me in those early years of motherhood. I longed to have the support and advice and connection with her and my children that most of my friends enjoyed with their mothers, who were all still living. That my kids would grow up never knowing who she had been hurt me terribly, and so began my perpetual campaign to teach them all about her, to let them know her through me.

Sometime early in my daughter’s life, I decided that I wanted to recreate the ice skating picture with her that I’d had with my mother (hopefully with a bit less trauma), so when she turned 4, we headed to the skating rink for her first time. I asked my husband to take a picture of us.

Notice the ring on my finger (and notice the smile on her face, so unlike her mother). On my dresser now, years later, the pictures, one of me and my mother and her ring, and the other of me and my daughter and the same ring, are a concrete, tangible link from one precious life, one precious love, to the other.

I wanted to repeat the experience with my older son when he turned four, but we could never get him to be still on dry land, let alone on ice. We didn’t make it to the ice rink with him until he was around seven, and although I made sure to wear my mother’s ring and forego a glove on that hand, the opportunity for a picture never arose. But I know it happened, and I know that each time I reached down and helped my son back to his feet, I saw the ring on my hand, and felt my mother there with us.

When my youngest son turned four, he desperately wanted skating lessons, so I willingly obliged. This time, it was just the two of us at the rink. He was so excited and happy to be on the ice that I didn’t want to stop him with a picture; I let him zip around to his heart’s content, and in the joy of watching him, I completely forgot. It wasn’t until our next lesson that I remembered and asked another mom in the group to take a picture when the lesson ended.

Notice the ring.

Look through our family pictures for the last two decades, and you will likely see that ring on my hand in most of them. I have other rings, prettier, daintier rings, of course; beautiful, delicate confections that my husband has lovingly chosen for me. When I dress up for date night or a wedding or what have you, I choose one of those, and my mother’s ring stays at home on my ring stand.  But still, most ordinary days, my mother’s big, solid, chunky peace symbol winds up on my finger. Its weight grounds me somehow; the knowledge that she walked this earth with it wrapped around her own finger makes me feel she is nearby, no matter where I am. Wearing it brings me peace and comfort and often, fortitude, in difficult situations.

I wish I’d had a camera with me last week, when we traveled to the Virgin Islands on spring break with our kids. As I always do, I wore my mother’s ring during the flights, which are difficult for me, and though I wasn’t planning on doing so, I slipped the ring on as we left to go snorkeling for the first time.

I was terrified. Something about no bottom I could touch with my feet, no poolside I could grab with my hands, filled me with silly horror. But my youngest son wanted to swim with the sea turtles, so there I was, taking a catamaran to Turtle Cove, quaking in my life vest and flippers. I rubbed my mother’s ring repeatedly, looking for calm and trying not to cry as I climbed down the ladder. I so wanted to do this for my two sons and my husband, to not let being afraid stop me from living.


After a few minutes in the water (and with the help of a pink pool noodle one of our guides tossed me), I began to relax. Then came the moment when our guide told us to look down, there were turtles right below us. I stuck my face in the water and searched all around beneath me—there. There they were. Two enormous turtles, gliding ever so slowly across the bottom. As I waved my hands gently in front of me to keep myself from drifting away from them, a flash of silvery light caught my eye. It was my mother’s ring.

I remembered, then, how when my siblings and I were kids, she had told us she’d always wanted to be a marine biologist (she became an English teacher instead, better with words than with math). I remembered, also, taking her to the dolphin show at the zoo the summer before she died, and how tightly she’d gripped my hand when the dolphin leaped above the water’s surface. I remembered her trembling at their power and beauty, remember how her eyes shone as she looked at me and squeezed my hand even tighter.

She would’ve loved this, I thought as I floated above the turtles. How I wish she could be here.

Then I remembered—she was.

I looked down at the turtles beneath me and went completely still. I moved my hand, moved my mother’s ring, before my face, so that it looked as if my hand were touching the turtles’ shells, as if, linked by her silvery ring, our hands, together, were gliding across their backs.

As I write this now, the only piece of jewelry I’m wearing is her ring. When I hit the Enter key or move the mouse, the ring glints in the morning light coming through my office window.

Notice my ring. Yes, it’s a peace symbol, a call sign for hippies, peaceniks, and snowflakes alike. Yes, it’s big and it’s clunky, not delicate or expensive or particularly feminine. But for me, wearing my mother’s ring has never been about what’s on the outside—it’s always been about all that it has held inside.



The Real Enemy

Last night, I was offered an extraordinary opportunity to do something I, a formerly rural, small-town, Methodist-turned-Catholic girl, would never have thought I’d do: I sat in the women’s section of my local mosque and watched as the women engaged in their final prayer session of the night.

This unexpected gift came about thanks to a community forum I attended entitled “How to Oppose Hate,” sponsored by our local Maryland State Delegate Eric Luedtke, our local Muslim Community Center, the Association of Black Democrats of Montgomery County, CASA de Maryland (a local nonprofit serving low-income immigrant communities), the Muslim Democratic Club of Montgomery County, Maryland State Senator Craig Zucker, Maryland Delegate Anne Kaiser, and Maryland Delegate Pam Queen.

Aside from the obvious appeal of the topic, the diversity of the speaker panel is what interested me most; it included Imam Mohamed Abdullahi, Rabbi Ari Sunshine, Reverend Mansfield Kaseman, and community leaders Gabriel Acevero, Hamza Khan, and Delegate Eric Luedtke.

The panel proceeded much as one would expect, with a moderator posing a set of five prepared questions and passing the mic from speaker to speaker, giving each the opportunity to respond. There were many moments of great profundity in their thoughtful, heartfelt replies; below is a sample of what they had to say. With one notable exception involving a speaker using a quote from Audre Lord, which I’m including, I am deliberately not providing individual attributions for these words, because I sensed throughout the evening that these individuals were united in the hope of speaking with one voice:

  • Indifference is not morally neutral. Indifference is the ally of hate.
  • We need to have more uncomfortable conversations. Hate isn’t solved by hate. Hate is solved by love, and by difficult conversations rooted in love.
  • “There’s no thing as a single-issue struggle, because we do not lead single-issue lives.” – Audre Lord
  • When you don’t vote, you end up on the menu.
  • Don’t hate me without knowing me.
  • Everything we need to do begins with asking, “How can I help?”
  • There is no enemy worse than ignorance.

In all honesty, that last sentence about ignorance–and its polar opposite, curiosity–is what drew me to the forum last night. I have spent nearly four years now, driving past the Muslim Community Center, without ever going in, and judging from comments by other attendees, I was not alone. The MCC sits smack in the middle of a long stretch of numerous faith communities, so many concentrated in this one area, in fact, that Delegate Luedtke referred to the street as the “Highway to Heaven.”

There has been so much media coverage about the administration’s recent attempt at a Muslim travel “ban,”  that the plight of the Muslim community has been weighing heavily on my mind. Before anyone gets their undies in a bunch, puffing out their chests with “What about the illegal immigrants’ plight? What about the women’s plight? What about the scourge of anti-Semitism? What about etc., etc., etc.?” Please, refer to the third bullet above.

So–when I saw that the community forum would be held at the Muslim Community Center, with an actual imam on the panel, I knew I wanted to hear what the panel would say.

So how did I, then, wind up watching a prayer service later that evening? Simple: The imam extended a gracious, loving invitation to all those present, and I, curious, accepted. Ignorance may be the enemy, but curiosity is its greatest foe.

But now, I must engage in a little truth-telling, in the vein of that second bullet above, the one about difficult conversations. I learned a lot about myself during my evening at the mosque, and it’s not all stuff I was happy to learn. It’s not ever easy to learn awful truths about yourself, but sometimes, those most difficult conversations are precisely the ones you need the most.

  1. When I walked to the door of the MCC, my heart was beating harder than it should have been. I was actually nervous. Ignorance is the enemy.
  2. I arrived a few minutes early, before the room started to fill. As I took my seat in an empty row, I felt unbearably white, as if I had stumbled into a space where I didn’t belong. That discomfort lasted until a member of the mosque, an older gentleman with a broad, loving smile, took my hand and welcomed me, told me how very grateful he was to see me there. Ignorance is the enemy.
  3. When Imam Abdullahi greeted the crowd—far larger than they’d anticipated, and incredibly diverse—in Arabic, and I heard “inshallah,” I was, I’ll admit, unnerved for a moment. Let me repeat that: A faith leader using a phrase that translates into “God willing” unnerved me. Why? Because it was said in Arabic. Did I know the phrase as an expression of faith? No. Thanks to our post-9/11 culture, where Muslims have been so successfully demonized as our #1 enemy, the only reason I even recognized the phrase was thanks to movies and TV shows where Muslims are so often depicted as terrorists.  Ignorance is the enemy.
  4. When Imam Abdullahi first invited those present to observe the community’s final prayer of the day, I stayed in my seat. I thought horning in on their prayers like the worst American tourist would seem rude and patronizing—would I want a Muslim or a Jew or a Baptist or even another Catholic to come sit next to me during Communion and just sit and watch me pray? It’d be creepy. Ignorance is the enemy.
  5. But then they extended the invitation a second time. I looked around me and saw others following the faithful out of the community center to the mosque itself. A woman with a lovely floral scarf and one of the brightest smiles I’ve ever seen beckoned to me to follow her to the women’s area; she seemed so eager to share the experience with us, so gracious and hopeful, I decided to follow her. (I will never know your name, dear woman, but I hope somewhere you hear me thanking you now for your hospitality.) Ignorance is the enemy.
  6. As I watched the men file off separately, an unbidden and very westernized sentiment welled up in me about how obnoxious and sexist it is that men and women cannot pray together in the Muslim faith. I reminded myself of my status as a guest in their home, and shoved that reaction down where it belonged and entered the foyer. Ignorance is the enemy.
  7. We removed our shoes and filed in behind the women, to where a large television monitor was mounted to the wall, showing the men’s prayer area. As Imam Abdullahi began to lead the prayer, a couple of men joined the prayers late. When the men began to fumble at the waistbands of their pants, for a moment, the insidious voice of the amygdalic fear fomented so successfully in our country since 9/11, a voice I thought I’d successfully ignored, suddenly began shouting in my ear—What are those men doing? Are they fumbling for the weapons they must surely have hidden there in those very suspicious waistbands? Did they just lure us innocents here for their nefarious purposes?  Thankfully, just as quickly as that feeling of fear arose, a louder voice of reason, a voice I’ve long worked to strengthen through education, began shouting the other one down: What the hell is the matter with you? What on earth are you afraid of? Open your eyes, ignoramus, look again. I did, and I saw, with deep chagrin, that the men were just hitching up their pants as they prepared to kneel in prayer, saving us all from a mass incident of plumber’s crack. IGNORANCE IS THE ENEMY.
  8. I looked back at the women in front of me, as they held out their open hands in prayer. One of the women looked over her shoulder and graced me with a beatific smile I will never forget. The women whispered along in prayer with the men on the monitor, their eyes closed, their faces calm and peaceful. They bowed, they knelt, and they greeted each other with the same love; the same deep, abiding faith; the same feeling of peace and unity I’d seen in my own Catholic masses and Sunday morning church services. In fact, those women praying before me suddenly seemed so familiar to me in the rituals of their faith, they might have been Catholics. They might have been Methodists. They might have been the faithful of any number of different religions around the world. The action of prayer, across all faiths, possesses an immense universality. Our faiths have so much more in common than many of us know, if we’d only take the time to learn. Ignorance is the enemy.
  9. When that sublime recognition of our oneness welled up in my heart, tears filled my eyes. Tears of gratitude that these gentle, loving brothers and sisters had welcomed me into their most sacred place, at a most sacred time in their day, and shared their faith with us. They didn’t have to do that. Tears also of sadness and frustration that our brothers and sisters feel they do have to justify their presence, their faith, and their traditions to non-Muslims, not simply out of the goodness of their hearts, which is no small thing, but also out of a growing, serious need to combat vicious stereotypes and unjustified fears so insidious, so pernicious, and so pervasive in our post-9/11 culture, that even a woman like me, a woman who believed herself to be completely open-minded and tolerant and accepting walked into a mosque and, no matter how fleeting it was, felt fear before love. This is what we have wrought in our culture of intolerance, and it is what we must all strive to undo. IGNORANCE IS THE ENEMY.

This is the difficult conversation I had with myself last night, and which I share with you, in hopes that it will inspire you to have some of your own. What is holding you back from engaging with others who are different from you? I participated in an extraordinary opportunity last night, offered to me and to all with love and open arms by the Muslim community. It’s easy to consider yourself open-minded and tolerant and accepting because you think you’re saying the right words, or because you can say, “I know some Muslim people, or some blacks, or some gays, or some cops, or some Trump supporters, or some undocumented immigrants, or some refugees, or some women who’ve had abortions.” It’s another thing entirely to examine your own fears and then  take the necessary steps to combat them with one of the greatest weapons the human mind possesses—curiosity. Curiosity led me to attend the forum; curiosity ushered me across the threshold; curiosity drew me to witness a faithful, loving, peaceful group of women at prayer, and it changed me.

It was an extraordinary experience, one that perhaps, were we living in less extraordinary times, may not have moved me so deeply. I hope with all my heart that moments like these, where we reach out to engage with and embrace others who, on the surface seem so different, will someday become less extraordinary, become instead ordinary, unremarkable. I hope that someday we will finally understand how much more alike we are than we are different. It starts with each one of us taking that first step. If we do not now have the difficult conversations with ourselves about our own deepest fears, intolerance, and ignorance, how can we ever hope to prevail in the difficult conversations we must now have, as communities and as a nation, with others who are afraid because they are ignorant, uneducated, ill-informed, or, perhaps worst of all, incurious? This important work begins inside each of us, alone.

I urge you to follow your curiosity, to actively begin stepping outside of your comfort zone.  Don’t just be a mindless sheep, following only what the media or other people tell you, not even me. Go and see for yourselves, I urge you. It will make all the difference in your perspective. Learn about other faiths, engage with people from other communities, from other backgrounds. Don’t let your fears dictate your behavior. Ask questions, show up, be a part of their world, and  invite them to be part of yours–because really, it’s never been about “my world” and “their world.” It’s always been “our world.”

Candlesticks and Daggers Interview Series

This post is part of the Candlesticks and Daggers Interview Series run by contributor Sati Benes Chock, and originally appeared January 19, 2017, on the blog of Candlesticks and Daggers editor, Kelly Ann Jacobson. For more about the book, please follow the link here.


Excerpt from Julia Tagliere’s story “His Last Human Day” 

Trapped, he crouches, contemplating the giant sludge of applesauce oozing between his toes, and tries to remember exactly when everything went wrong. Then he does remember: He no longer has toes. It’s just another mind trick he still hasn’t conquered, like remembering he has an exoskeleton now, not skin. They say karma’s the bitch, but for him, it’s the remembering.


Hi Julia! Can you tell us a little about how you became a writer? How did you begin? Did you always know that you wanted to be a writer?

As I suspect is the case with many writers, I started writing very young and wrote a lot of early garbage, resorting to non-writing employment—in my case, nine years of teaching high school Spanish and French—for survival purposes. Actually, when I began college, I really thought I’d be an interpreter at the UN by now; funny how things work out, isn’t it? After my third consecutive maternity leave, I took up writing again to save my sanity, and started taking graduate writing classes to get better at it. Sixteen years later, I’m still working on that.

What do you read for fun?

Anything by Neil Gaiman (I read Good Omens at least once every year) and Cook’s Illustrated magazine—outstanding writing, detailed research, and a healthy dose of dark fantasy (especially the cooking magazine). I’m also doing the Book Riot Read Harder 2017 Challenge this year, which will have me reading things outside of my comfort zone this year; they may not all be “fun,” but we shall see.

Some writers have rituals that they feel helps them with the creative process. Do you employ any rituals, or do anything regularly that helps keep you on track with your writing?

When I’m composing, I burrow into my comfy chair, put my feet up, and work with my laptop propped on a pillow on my legs; I can sit like that for hours without moving. When I’m revising, however, I’m all business—I hunch over my desktop keyboard to work, streaming classical music to help me tune out any distractions. Both approaches are terrible for one’s back; I’m certain later in life I’ll wind up emulating Dalton Trumbo and have to write in my bathtub. Keeping track of my daily word count keeps me honest.

You have a lot of experience with writing programs, having studied at DePaul University and most recently getting your M.A. from Johns Hopkins (Congrats!). What would you say to beginning writers who are trying to decide whether or not to enter a program? Is there anything you’d wished that you’d known before applying?

Dirty little secret time: I don’t believe that, in and of themselves, writing programs make anyone a better writer (except for Ed Perlman’s Sentence Power class—that kicked my butt. Thank you, Ed). In fact, I think that’s a mistake many beginning writers make—believing that if they just complete a program they’ll magically become great writers. What writing programs do, and it’s something I feel both DePaul and Johns Hopkins do quite well, is create opportunities: opportunities, in a (largely) supportive communal setting, to study, to analyze, to reflect, to debate, to connect, to be exposed (and I mean that in dual senses, both to be exposed to other works and viewpoints and such, as well as to be exposed as a writer oneself). Recognizing those opportunities and taking advantage of them with an open mind, a willing spirit, and the tenacity to put in some really hard work—that’s what makes one a better writer. Could you accomplish this growth on your own, outside of a formal writing program? Perhaps, but it’d be far more difficult to recreate such a banquet of opportunities in isolation.

If you could tell beginning writers one thing about the publishing process, what would it be? Any advice for writers trying to crack the anthology market?

We’d all like to think that being published is simply a matter of being talented, but the hard truth is that getting published requires more than just being a good writer. The world is full of good writers. The ones who are published are the ones who put themselves in the right place at the right time, something you do by getting out there and meeting people. I know, we’d all much rather snuggle into our comfy chairs and pretend the world doesn’t exist, but it just doesn’t work that way. Get out there! Attend conferences, seminars, lectures, readings, become active on social media; that is how you make the connections that will get your work seen.

Your story, “His Last Human Day,” was a ton of fun. Without giving away too much of the story, I’d like to talk about it a bit. This is a tale about transformation, on a number of levels. What touched me most about it was how well you humanize a character that is a species most find abhorrent.  Was that difficult to do, or did it just sort of happen organically?

One of the things I found so difficult about reading Kafka’s Metamorphosis (and this piece is obviously an homage) was that Samsa was just so gross (I can’t watch the Jeff Goldblum version of The Fly, either). For me, personally, as a reader, the grossness got in the way of the story; I knew that, if I was going to be able to say what I wanted to say with this piece, I would have to tone down the gross-out factor quite a bit, perhaps even incorporate some humor. Once I made that decision, the actual humanization came about rather organically.

How did you come up with the idea for this story, I mean…were you just standing there in the shower, thinking dark thoughts while pondering Kafka….and…suddenly, you weren’t alone? In other words, any basis in real life, or was this just one of those fantasies that evolved out of “what if’s”?

This piece came about in two ways: First, the house we’d just moved into had a huge infestation of stink bugs; those little fuckers were everywhere. As I was showering one morning, I noticed a stink bug on the door; it was just sitting there, swinging its antennae back and forth, looking for all the world like it was actively watching me shower— that left a very disturbing impression. Then, in one of my classes later that week, we did a first-line swap: We each wrote an original first line on the chalkboard and then chose someone else’s line to start a new piece. I chose one about someone standing in a bowl of applesauce and wondering where everything went wrong, but when I began working on the assignment, using a normal-sized human protagonist just didn’t work; for my purposes, the character had to be someone (or something) very small. Of course, I thought immediately of my stinkbug stalker, but I worried about being perceived as ripping off Kafka. After much deliberation, I tackled the problem head-on by making the character an actual cockroach (a common misconception of Samsa’s character) and having the cockroach itself address Kafka’s work directly in the piece. It turned out to be one of the most fun pieces of writing I’ve done to date.

You wrote a novel, Widow Woman, in 2012. One theme of that work was forgiveness, which is also touched upon in “His Last Human Day.” Do you find that this is a recurring theme for your writing? 

Yes, it is a recurring theme. I suspect it’s because I have a hard time with cynicism. Perhaps that makes me a Pollyanna or a naïve chump, but I always want to believe the best of others, no matter how abhorrent. Enough evil exists and dark things happen every day in real life; in my fiction, I can let the more optimistic, hopeful side of my imagination take over and create those opportunities for redemption. It’s not always granted, of course—wouldn’t that be dull? But the opportunities are definitely there.

Any future projects (or anything else) you want to tell us about?

I have a few short pieces already in the pipeline, along with an upper middle-grade adventure I’ve finished and am hoping to get out in 2017. As far as new writing, I’ll be working on completing my third novel, The Day the Music Didn’t Die, a fun work of magic realism for adult readers I’m excited to get back to now that I’m done with my classes; I also blog about “stuff” at

About Julia Tagliere

Julia Tagliere is a freelance writer and editor and studied in the M.A. in Creative Writing program at DePaul University in Illinois. Her work has appeared in magazines such as The Writer and Hay & Forage Grower and in numerous online publications. Julia’s debut novel, Widow Woman, was published in 2012. In 2014, Open to Interpretation, the juried photography and prose series, selected Julia’s short story, “The Navigator,” for publication in Love + Lust, its fourth and final installment. Another of her recent stories, “Te Absolvo,” won Best Short Story in the 2015 William Faulkner Literary Competition. This December, her personal essay, “Stars I Will Find,” appears in a collection of stories about the challenges of simultaneously caring for growing children and aging parents, Here In The Middle: Stories Of Love, Loss, And Connection From The Ones Sandwiched In Between. An active blogger and past finalist in Minneapolis’ Loft Literary Center’s Mentor Series Competition, Julia resides in Maryland with her family, where she recently completed her M.A. in Fiction Writing at Johns Hopkins University.

Julia’s March on Washington

It’s been a couple of days now, and I’ve given the Women’s March a lot of thought. I called this photo album “Julia’s March,” because I want to be clear that the photos in it represent what I saw that day, what I felt that day, and what I hoped that day would bring about. So here are my thoughts:

1. In this era of fake news, it’s critical for us to stop relying on biased media. Fox, CNN, MSNBC, Breitbart, ABC, NBC–they ALL have slants, they all have agendas. It’s time for us to see with our own eyes, hear with our own ears, and make better informed judgments. With that in mind, I didn’t caption most of these photos, because I want you to look at what I saw and make your own judgments. Please, however, pay close attention to the faces of the people in them. Notice the genders, notice the ages, notice the colors, notice the expressions, notice what the signs say, whether you like them or not.

2. I don’t consider myself a feminist. I consider myself a wife, a mother, a woman, a human being. The only one of those I marched to fight for was the last one, and I think a lot of people there felt the same way. #womensrightsarehumanrights

3. People have asked me many times, before the March and since, “What do I think this big protest is going to accomplish?” It’s a valid question. Protests mean nothing, without meaningful action afterwards. What I hope, and what think I already see happening, is that the March is beginning to engage people, many of whom never engaged before, myself included, in civic action and respectful discourse on very complicated and divisive issues on a greater level than we’ve seen in my ENTIRE lifetime. Whether you marched or not, whatever your reasons for marching or not marching, I think we can ALL agree that there are too many people in this country who are hurting, who need help, who need protection–civil rights protection, economic protection, health care protection, racial justice protection, environmental protection–our country is IN TROUBLE, and it was before Trump, before Obama, before Clinton, before Bush–these problems have deep, thorny roots. If Trump has done anything, it’s to turn over the foul, grimy complacent layer of dirt on them and expose to all of us just how ugly and deep they run.

It’s insidiously easy to sit back and let the government do whatever the government wants to do, easy to feel like you, one person, you’re not enough to effect change. If all we do is march, if all we do is talk and post, then you are absolutely right: The March was for nothing, and we are not enough, will never BE enough. But if, instead, the March, whether you participated in it or not, causes us to LISTEN to each other; to actively seek out opposing viewpoints and try to engage with the people who hold them in a respectful, positive spirit of mutual cooperation and compromise; causes us to actively seek out unbiased, unfiltered primary sources of information, like CSPAN, or, even better, to attend hearings and protests and meetings IN PERSON, rather than to continue relying on someone else to regurgitate FOR you the information you use to make your judgments; causes us to CALL OUR GOVERNMENT REPRESENTATIVES AND HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE TO THEIR PROMISES TO THE AMERICAN PEOPLE; causes us to become involved at a local level in helping others–food drives, volunteering at schools and shelters and for trash pickups, causes us to stop talking and start DOING; causes us to stop reacting from the gut to sensational and polarizing news bites and stop perpetuating the cycle of disinformation and distrust–IF, and it’s a big IF, I know, because it’s a lot to ask of each other, IF this is what the March accomplishes, then that is EVERYTHING I hoped it would do. We can do this, America. I believe in us. I believe in you.

#WhyIMarch #WomensMarchDC